7 reasons to stop dating and become exclusive with your Twin Flame (even when you are not together)

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Has your Twin Flame left you and are you looking to move on?

We have all been there that we have tried to move on after we have met our Twin Flame and they had made a run for it.

Who will blame you right?

Why stick around and wait for someone who clearly DOES NOT seem to want to be with you? In normal 3D romantic love relationships, this would be a sure sign that it is over and done and that it is time for you to move on and find someone new.

Well if you are on the Twin Flame journey, you probably know by now there is no real moving on or forgetting each other and this applies just as much for your twin. Trust me, if this person is your true Twin Flame they are just as stuck as you are. There is nowhere to run and nowhere to hide, they get flooded with all the signs as well. Because the Universe and your souls have bigger and better plans for you then the average earthly love affair you had in mind….

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In this article I will share some of the experiences that are very common among Twin Flames who are trying to move on, which are often hilarious. The Universe can have a weird sense of humor sometimes and will literally stop at nothing to keep pointing the twin pair back to each other.

It does this not out of a sick joke, but because you signed up for this Divine mission baby! You asked to experience TRUE LOVE and the Universe is helping you peel off all the layers of gunk and sludge, dispel all the illusions of what love and romance is all about. So that you can experience love in it’s most highest form, as the truest love that exists – to be able to love unconditionally.

Either commit or quit

There is really only one way to get straight from A to B and that is to COMMIT to the journey and to your Twin Flame, no matter what. This will not be pain free, you will face all your personal dragons and demons. It will probably not be a fairy tale romance to begin with, but a fairy tale ending is guaranteed no matter what the outcome will be. Because no matter what, the Twin Flame experience always moves you into the life that your soul has prepared for you. It moves you into your personal destiny.

The other option is to quit, find someone else and notice that even when decades have gone by that you still dream of that ONE person and have not been able to forget them. I speak to twin’s daily who are anywhere between 1 – 5, 17 or sometimes even 30 years into their journey in which they were in separation from their twin…. there is no forgetting your Twin Flame, there is no real moving on. There is only delaying the inevitable.

In the end ‘runners‘ return because they can’t forget you either.

What prolongs the journey for twin pairs is them playing out their karma instead of clearing it out. 3rd party partners are an important way of playing out karma, but it is simply not the quickest way to unconditional love and a life together with your twin. Plus it’s more painful in the end, then allowing the Twin Flame connection to show you where you need to clear it out.

If you want to know more about speeding up your timeline and how to clear out the karma that is keeping you and your twin apart, instead of having to play it out in your physical reality read this article on how Your Twin Flame drama is not what you think it is, and how to make the journey a lot smoother.

It can very well be that a 3rd party partner is part of the plan that you and your twin scripted for your reunion in this lifetime, just make sure that when you do chose to become intimate with someone else that the other person is not a twin-replacement, a twin-rebound or a twin-bandaid. You want to be with someone for all the right reasons, not because you couldn’t be with the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with and now you can’t deal with the pain.

7 reasons to commit and become exclusive with your twin

It may seem really weird to commit to someone and become exclusive with someone, who is not talking to you or maybe even seeing someone else. It’s not logical, but then again – what is logical on the Twin Flame journey? I mean as soon as you meet your twin, nothing is what it seems to be anymore anyway right? Still if deep down in your heart, you want a happily ever after with your twin – then committing is the quickest way to get there.

We create our own realities by our thoughts and actions. But in order for this to work in your favor, you need to send the Universe very clear intentions and back them up with completely congruent actions.

Committing and saving myself only for my twin, got me in India in his loving embrace in less than a years time. With him sneaking into my room to sleep in each others arms, even though all hell would have broken lose if we had been caught by the Indian family in whose house we were staying.

Now let me clarify that, I met my twin online and had never met him in real life until then. I had been committed to someone I had never touched and never kissed in real life. Even when the Universe had an ex-lover show up in my backyard out of nowhere after four years and this was mr. best sex ever up til then, I had no difficulty saying no. When I turned this guy down, out of nowhere for the first time since my twin had made a run for it we talked for 5 hours on Whatsapp, he wrote me a beautiful email and then he blew my mind describing to me how he wanted to make love to me.

Your thoughts and actions align you to the reality you want to create, when YOU align them to the outcome you want to manifest.

So let’s dive into the seven reasons to commit to your twin, whether he or she reciprocates this or not.

#1 Nature abhors a vacuum

This is Law of Attraction basics we are talking here, you have to create a physical space for that which you want. If this applies to trivial things as new sneakers or bigger things like job, cars and houses, it definitely also applies to lovers.

If you want a romantic love relationship with your Twin Flame, you need to be single and not seeing someone. That way there is room in your life, for your twin to come in as your romantic partner.

#2 What goes around comes around

There is no guarantee that your twin will reciprocate, but one thing is sure if you don’t commit, neither will they. You get what you give, if you give commitment and exclusivity you align to this frequency and it will be mirrored back into your reality one way or the other.

A lot of female twins get very jealous or upset when they see that there twin is back on Tinder or whatever dating site or app. But why are you on there? Don’t put your energy and focus into things you do not want to create in your physical reality. Focus instead on what you want to put forth into the Universe.

#3 You are also running

Male Twin Flames use relationships with 3rd party partners as a way to run and hide and they are often very aware of the fact that the relationship with the twin is much deeper and intenser than the one they are hiding in. Female twins also run but in a different way, because they feel rejected by their twin they can run into a relationship with someone else for various reasons but all of them having to do with in some way easing the pain of the rejection.

Instead of facing the pain in whichever way it has been triggered and healing it, they use the relationship with someone else to soften the blow and proving to themselves that they ARE attractive, feminine, lovable, or [fill in any other kind of wounding]. This leads to the wounds staying intact and being triggered over and over again.

#4 Hello Twin Flame clone

Another great practical joke the Universe can pull on us is presenting us the Twin Flame clone, which is as the word implies another version of your twin except, that you are well aware that the original is the better version.

When you are the one running or perhaps also running, chances are you will run right into the arms of your Twin Flame clone. They will maybe talk the same way, feel the same way, etc. You will just be sitting there and thinking ‘Oh my god!’ A client recently got seated on a long International flight, next to her Twin Flame clone. She thought she was going crazy.

In my case my Twin Flame clone had an Indian name, spoke Hindi even though he was born in Kabul, we met online on Facebook where he was looking for a wife… and after he heard my story of the pending arranged marriage that my twin’s family wanted for him, the Twin Flame clone decided to check just to make sure if he was free to choose his own bride. It turns out he wasn’t and that his family would also pick for him.

The interesting thing was and this was before I fully committed to my twin, was that a friend of mine had just met her husband and things went so smoothly between them that I literally asked the Universe if my twin was not meant for me, to then bring me the husband that was for me. I figured I could be holding on too much to my twin and not be open enough to the Universe bringing me someone better for example. Immediately I got this friend request from the Twin Flame clone, only to get a full rerun of my Twin Flame story.

My twin’s and my mutual best friend at that time, encouraged me to keep patience with the Twin Flame clone situation as he said you never know how things like this can change. I knew then and there that if there was anyone I would have such patience with, it would be with my Twin Flame and no one else.

One month later I fully committed to my Twin Flame forsaking all others.

#5 Sex is an energy exchange

The thing is with Twin Flames that even though this is the strongest connection ever, with an immense sexual pull between the twin pair – a lot of Twin Flames have not or are not having sex with each other. The reason for this being, that being sexually intimate with your twin is the most intense sex there is to begin with, but it also accelerates the purging and healing process.

Some twin pairs can clear this way, but for most this is just too intense and it increases the Twin Flame drama. But introducing energies from outside the twin relationship, can also bring difficulties along. One of my clients who is in an active sexual relationship with her twin had sex with her ex during a phase of twin drama, which brought on a full panic attack because the sex with her twin had changed her vibrational frequency so much, she couldn’t handle her ex-boyfriends energy anymore.

Whether you are having sex with your twin or not, the healing and purging that comes along with the Twin Flame experience also raises your vibrational frequency, sleeping with others while on the Twin Flame journey just brings more new stuff to clear out. Especially for women, because we are the receiving party in sexual engagement.

Now I know it’s considered hip for women to also sleep around these days etc. and if your objective is to just have a good time, that might be exactly what you need to do. But if you are looking to create a serious relationship with someone, then even in 3d it’s normal to keep yourself only for that person. So if you want to be with your twin, don’t have sex with other people because you will be sending mixed signals to the Universe. Your actions will not match the desires of your heart, which makes it hard to manifest them.

Even if your twin is seeing someone else, that can change in a twinkling of an eye. Remember, nothing is what it seems to be on the Twin Flame journey. The relationships the Divine masculine twin flees into after he has met his Divine feminine are often not strong foundationed love relationships, built to last a lifetime. They are more often just karma knocking on the door and not only his karma, but very often also you have had a mutual past life with the new love interest of your twin.

Another woman for example is often how fear of loss  is played out, in order to heal it. Florence Scovel Shinn already wrote about this in 1925. What we believe, also subconsciously will manifest in our reality.

With love usually comes terrific fear. Nearly every women comes into the world with a mythical woman in the back of her mind who is to rob her of her love.

She has been called “the other woman.” Of course it comes from woman’s belief in duality. So long as she visualizes interference, it will come.

It is usually very difficult for a woman to see herself loved by the man she loves, so these affirmations are to impress the truth of the situation upon her subconscious mind, for in reality there is only oneness.


As I am one with God, the Undivided One, I am one with my undivided love and undivided happiness.

The light of the Christ within now wipes out all fear, doubt, anger and resentment. God’s love pours through me, an irresistible magnetic current. I see only perfection and draw to me my own.

Divine Love, through me, now dissolves all seeming obstacles and makes clear, easy and successful my way.

I love everyone and everyone loves me. My apparent enemy becomes my friend, a golden link in the chain of my good.

I am at peace with myself and with the whole world. I love everyone and everyone loves me.
The flood gates of my good now open.

#6 Maybe this is my Twin Flame then?!

Now when the Divine feminine feels rejected and flees into a relationship with someone else what often happens is that she transfers her feelings for her twin onto this new person and gets all confused, because now it feels as if this might actually be her twin…

It’s like a magic wand sprinkled twin magic on this new person and the Divine feminine starts to doubt if the first person was really their twin, because this new person seems to be much more their true Twin Flame.

It never lasts of course and one day they wake up from the illusion and see the truth, which often isn’t pretty. The thing is once you have met your twin and your heart has been activated, all your relationships change. Anyone new coming in will be viewed from the new activated heart point of view, which your twin activated.

I know it is hard not to take things personally, but unless you are mistaking an abusive relationship for a Twin Flame connection everything your twin does is not to hurt you but to help you become aware of your own wounding. When you fail to see this or discard your twin because it is not the picture perfect romance, you expected it to be… Chances are you will over- romanticize anyone coming in after your twin or even feel that this new person might be your REAL twin instead.

Which is another real good reason to not get involved with anyone else until you are really ready to move on and not just looking for a twin-bandaid.

Doing the journey together with other twin’s also going through similar experiences can really help you to take things a lot less personal. In the Online Twin Community you can connect to twins all around the world on the same journey as you, which will help you see that you are not alone in your experience.

#7 You can’t manifest union while seeing other people

We will end with another major Law of Attraction reason, not only do you need to create a physical space for the role you want your twin to play in your life, you need to align your thoughts, words and actions to that which you want to manifest.

You can’t manifest Twin Flame union while you are seeing someone else, it’s not possible. The only reason really to want to be with someone else is the fear of being alone or that your twin will not chose for a relationship with you and you don’t want to end up empty handed – which is just another variation of fear of being alone.

So unless you can honestly look yourself in the eye and say you would rather spend the rest of your life with the person you are with now, than the opportunity to spend the rest of your life with your Twin Flame – I would recommend working on healing your fear of being alone.

If you were already married when you met your twin ask yourself if it is really love that is keeping you and your spouse together and not loyalty, co-dependency, or the earlier mentioned fear of being alone, etc. You don’t have to want to be with your twin, but if it is your deepest heart’s desire to be together with your twin, you need to make sure that you are fully aligned to creating that as your reality.

Seeing other people, while waiting for your Twin Flame to come back to you cancels out the manifestation of union with your twin. Especially when that seeing other people stems from unhealed wounding, it brings you out of alignment with union with your twin. This doesn’t make it wrong or bad to see other people, that’s not the point. All detours in the end bring you back on the road you are meant to travel, it could just take you longer to get there.

I hope that reading this article will give you the inspiration you need to really go for manifesting your hearts desire. It would be too bad to give up hope because your situation seems hopeless, while in reality you and your twin are right on track bringing up the wounding that is keeping you out of union. I see a lot of Divine feminines struggling to move on, when they give up on their Divine masculine because they don’t understand the journey. You are always free to want to move on, but if your deepest heart’s desire is to be together with your twin in this lifetime then implementing these tips will help you to align yourself more fully to it’s physical manifestation.

You still need to do the inner work but when you do a and they lived happily ever after is possible also for you and your Twin Flame.

Do you want some help cutting through the crap in your Twin Flame relationship? Sign up for a cut through the crap session with me.

Lots of love,

Sabriyé Dubrie



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  • Crystal

    I just wanted to say I’m so happy I found this site. There’s someone important to me I met when I studied abroad this past Spring and all I can say is I felt like I’d lost my mind. Meeting him was a very surreal and overwhelming experience yet at the same time I felt a very strong sense of calm. When we made eye contact, each time was a very intense feeling between us. Somehow I just ‘knew’ him and how he’d be before I even met him. In fact, I recall being weirded out that I was so accurate. My reaction to meeting him was and even now has been life changing. My first thoughts when meeting him were that ‘I’m not worthy’ and then once I had to leave I had a strong drive that I had a lot to work on myself before I saw him again. Somehow just by meeting this man, it has triggered some sort of need to reconnect with a part of myself I had lost…a part of me I didn’t fully realize I had lost. But I had no idea what was going on at the time so I went through a stage of clinging to that memory, fear of loss and over-analyzing everything. I’ve come out of that state yet I couldn’t figure out why I can’t spend a day without remembering him while all my other crushes have completely faded away. It’s kind of funny because, I have a ‘type’ and he both defies it and perfectly fits it.

    Naturally my friends were a bit confused why I was so worked up over all of this but part of me knew something else was going on. I’m usually very level headed and even when I have a crush on someone I’d never felt like I had with the few moments I had with him despite the language barrier. I had no idea why I’d reacted to meeting him in such a way but after learning about Twin Flames and after reading your blogs, it all makes sense to me now. I’m happy to say I don’t feel so crazy anymore haha. As of now there isn’t much I can do to keep in contact with him but I know in my heart I’ll be able to see him again. In fact during a group tarot reading with a good friend of mine, I was worrying about me not finding relationships in general and she basically pointed right back to him with her reading; right down to the number of years I’ll be returning to his country. Also I keep getting confirmations from the Universe, even when I tried to get away from the idea I always get drawn back to it. The more I read into this phenomenon, the more I’m able to progress myself towards our reunion. It’s been a painful but rewarding experience so far. Thank you so much. I’ll be looking more into what your site has to offer. Being able to share this with others who have experienced something similiar helps me ALOT in this journey 🙂

  • Darlene Austin

    Since the first time I met my twin flame, I knew I would wait for as long as it takes. He awakened my spirituality in me again. He has told me how deeply he loves me but that I should move on because he can’t justify me waiting for him to be ready. I told him I love him unconditionally and that I can’t give my heart to another because it already belongs to him. I feel honored to be on this journey even knowing how challenging it has been and will be. Union with him is worth the work and the time. I am so thankful I saw a post on Facebook that led me to you. I was lost and confused, doibting, even though I knew he was the one. Now I can focus on what I need to do instead of “have I lost my mind.”

  • Elizabeth Rimmer

    Live your truth

  • Monique

    Thank you so much! Haha, got it, not doing that for sure! I found your post actually while looking for info on when it not seemed to be from fear or moving on and I was happy to see it can be something that is meant for whatever reason at this time. Thank you for sharing your experience with this, very helpful. I’ll see where it goes, thanks again!

  • Sabriye Dubrie

    Hey Monique, just see how it goes. This post is more about not just jumping into bed with everyone, to kill the pain that rejection inevitably brings up. If you do meet someone that is life partner material you can give yourself the time to see where it goes. I went on a date in October last year and it was great, but besides having a girlfriend the guy also used drugs which I found out both on the first date which made it very clear that this was not the kind of person I would consider as a life partner. We bumped into each other a couple more times after that, had amazing chemistry but I already knew enough to know that this was not what I wanted. The Universe asked a couple of times, are you sure? and I said; ‘Yes, I am sure. I will wait for the real thing.’ and I didn’t bump into him again. Either this person is someone you do want to spend your life with, or it will be clear really soon. Girls in my tribe have had the worst sabotages on dates ever and then it’s just a clear sign to stay put and wait.

  • Monique

    Tnx for this great article Sabriyé! I’ve thought I was doing something wrong, but from your “It can very well be that a 3rd party partner is part of the plan that you and your twin scripted for your reunion in this lifetime” I understand it is possible this might be the case… I’ve been totally committed to my twin for quite some time and I’m here for whenever he’s ready. Despite him not being there in 3D, I’ve not been angry about that, somehow always knew was about fear. Despite enough challenges in my journey, I’ve been loving him no matter what and having an soulconnection that grew amazing over time. Worked on myself hard and according to a healing 3 months ago we were harmonized, our energies balanced. My twin is still with his karmic though (according to a trustworthy psychic who’s good with destined events he should have been out in Spring), at least he was a month ago as he let me know by text when I was guided to reach out. I had done so with some reluctance because I didn’t know any better I wasn’t supposed to. Haven’t seen or spoken to him in almost a year and up until that text from him as a respons to mine, we hadn’t been in contact for 10 months. The fact he responded and the way he did it in was a beautiful testimony of his growth in that time.

    Now the Universe presented me with a man who I feel a real connection to and can’t seem to get him out of my mind. There’s something similar in our dynamic as with my twin in the beginning and he’s just as shy, but other than that he’s very different. So no clone it seems. I know I just want my twin and no-one else no matter how long it takes, or at least I really thought I did.. Because despite fighting it I notice I feel pretty attracted to this other guy. Feeling shame and guilt about that towards my twin and not wanting any of it (feels like a cruel joke sometimes). Asked him for forgiveness on a soullevel saying it’s not what I meant to happen and that I choose him and always will.

    I’ve asked for guidance and got ‘go with the flow’ which helped for a little while. But when confusion hits me again (every time after – ‘coincidentally’ – having seen the other guy again. Which seems to happen every time it would be possible but not at all necessary). I meditated on what’s to my highest good regarding this other man. What came to me then is it’s about loving all parts of myself even parts I want to deny (I guess having feelings for someone else). Being okay with what I feel, whatever it is. And when I asked about what to do if he would ask me out, to let it be what feels right in that moment.

    I feel I have something to work out with this man and it’s somehow destined – and my twin’s soul would be involved as well.. – and it would be okay, whatever it turns out to be. Although I trust my intuition completely because it’s never failed me, it still confuses me a lot. It has surprised me completely, so not what I expected to ever happen.. By the way, I’m sure my twin is my real twin, long story, but trust me I have good reason for believing that and has also been confirmed in different – and unexpected – ways.

    Does anyone have a – nonjudgemental – take on this? Tnx! Monique

  • Sabriye Dubrie

    Always listen to your heart, it knows best… Don’t go for what looks good on paper.

  • Karla Carpio-Ramos

    This is happening to me as we speak. I met someone I have a connection with on a more spiritual level meaning he’s very God conscious. We’re very similar from sense of humor to phrases to faith etc. I haven’t seen my TF in over a year haven’t really spoken he reached out 2 months ago but no solid convo. So I decide to move on because this guy has actually been trying to talk to me since we first separated I blew him off at the time. Well on our first date he was saying my TF exact words and phrases, as if my TF gave him a script of our conversations and he would read a line at given times the first time it felt like a coincidence. This happened like 10 or more times I click with him but this happening had me confused is my TF just being thrown back in my face or is this my true TF since its more spiritual but he doesn’t make me feel nothing close to how I felt in my TF presence it actually made me sad.

  • Sabriye Dubrie

    So happy to hear it. Lots of love.

  • athislotusfeet

    Going through the twin flame clone stage. It completely took me by surprise and at a point quite overpowering. He does represent my Twin but I heard my soul say that it is a test. Your guidance helped me a lot.

  • KimberleyTF1010

    Havent had the urge to date anyone since this happened to me. I heed your advice.. I couldn’t move on from him even if I tried.

  • Francesca Torti

    I do not agree. Me and my twin don’t see each other since november 2016. I’m not gonna wait for him. Life is not holding on something that is stucked or something that is not. I think we have to live our life twin flame or not. I see other person and i have other partners because it makes me feel good and these moments are precious gifts. Please, do not wait for nobody.

  • CrystalDrop

    Dear “newer waves” of twins, please do take heed of this brilliant article. I am the living example of this. I tried to move on from my twin in the early 2000s, and I really needed this piece of information then.

    In the back of my mind I knew that he’s my other half, although there wasn’t a whole lot of twin flame information out there yet at that time and I had no clue what was happening. I thought I can forget, move on, restart…thousands of miles away. I deserved love and “magically” it showed up, masquerading as the perfect “getaway” and “reset”, the perfect match..I attempted to build a dream family and a dream relationship for all the wrong reasons (proving to myself that I can be loved and I can be happy without him..it all felt so good for my ego..). Of course I wanted to give all my love to them and I did – until it all came crumbling down with devastating illnesses on my end, and then by the deterioration of the relationship from “fine” to hell.

    And Twin DID come back. Oh boy, he did..albeit it took almost a decade. And it became crystal clear that it doesn’t matter whether I break hearts or not, I WILL yield to him, no matter what.
    We figured out our divine connection after a decade of break. Tangled up in karmic relations now with people that are not right for us and it’s also crystal clear that we belong together, for our own happiness AND for service to the world..but there is karmic attachment now, and children..many lives to consider.

    I do not want to be doom and gloom and I believe everyone “have the right” to explore other relationships and move on, or attempt to. However, it requires extreme honesty whether the “other person” “deserves” to be a replacement and “2nd in line” forever – he or she will be, because you will naturally yield to your twin when they return, regardless of the consequences. And no one deserves that. I believe it may be pre-scripted in many (maybe all) cases, like in mine with my karmic relationship – but I do believe that it could’ve been cleared and released without having to live it through, and this is why I am so grateful for this article that this info is now shared with twin flames.

    17 years into it I know with all of my heart, mind and soul that there’s no other romance for me, not in this life or other. Not with my karmic partner, nor others. I gladly renounce romance, sex, family, financial and emotional safety… and embrace being “lonely” till this karmic entanglement is done, I can not afford to enter new ones…and because I know now from experience that it is/was only a bandaid solution and will not/did not bring lasting happiness. I wish I knew it back then.

    I hurt for people (and the “replacement people”) when I read or see twins talking about “replacements” and “moving on”. I respect free will but I also know that what seems sweet love, an answered prayer, and end of loneliness right now – will likely turn to bitter, painful, regretful experience down the road when in divine timing Twin returns. Again, karmic partners do not deserve the heartbreak we end up causing to them – and we will, because we have to break our promise to them in order to keep our promise to God.

    In the end God’s divine will prevails and all will be well, regardless, in my story and everyone’s story, I 100% believe this. But this has to be said and shared…and be keenly aware of. Brilliant article and I am so happy to read something like this, wise words from someone very knowledgeable. Blessings!

  • Rosa

    Thank you very much for these articles. I am waiting for my TF a long time ago, 25 years to be precised. I am a 38 years old woman and I was wondering what to do. Do I have to make an act of faith being on my own, on my way, hoping that we will meet soon….sooner than later….or do I have to do all my best to have a “normal” life, and to have children. I am so afraid to let time runs and to finish without children. I choose my TF.