How do I know if this really is my Twin Flame? Including a fool proof method to find out once and for all

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A question many twins have on repeat

If there is one question many twins have on repeat, it’s the question ‘Is this really my Twin Flame?

It starts out as a burning question at the beginning of the journey and even years later it can every now and then creep back in the mind as a doubt, when you and your twin are traveling through the rocky parts of your Twin Flame adventure.

It’s also a question that can be asked by the people around you, when you try to explain this amazing connection that you are experiencing with this person you believe to be your Twin Flame. Their disbelief can easily have you spiraling into doubt, especially when your twin is running away from you and it really looks like he or she is just not that into you. Leaving you wondering if it was only you, who felt the intense magic or that it was all just a figment of your imagination.

In this article I will show you a fool proof method to get Divine confirmation of your Twin Flame connection and I will explain what methods out there you should not use, to avoid fake twin or near twin experiences. You want to avoid having to ask this ‘Is this really my twin?‘ question as much as possible, but you especially want to avoid having to ask it about multiple people.

One of the most important reasons to get clarity around this question is because, chances are you will sit on the fence longer than needed or wanted about whether you should treat this as a Twin Flame connection, if you are not sure if this really is your twin. It’s like you are at the start-line of a marathon, but you are not sure if you should start running or not.

How do you know for sure?

Often when I talk about Twin Flames with my mom she asks, ‘But how do they know for sure if it’s their Twin Flame?‘ I used to answer, when you have met your twin – you just know and the Universe will knock itself out to confirm it to you. But she keeps asking that same question over and over again, so now I just tease her and tell her that they go to a love pharmacy and buy some ph sticks that they then stick into something to know 100% that the other is their twin… This always makes her laugh.

But honestly, there are no Twin Flame Authenticity tests kits to prove your Twin Flame connection. No ph sticks that will color purple if you are a perfect soul frequency match. Wouldn’t it be awesome though if there would be like Twin Flame pee sticks that would light up positive or maybe Twin Flame DNA kits that will confirm your changed DNA after meeting your twin? Something a new age Twin Flame inventor might come up with one day….

Until then, there is really only one way to know if someone is your Twin Flame or not and that is your inner knowing. Really listening to what your heart has to say.

I would not suggest using common Twin Flame signs and symptoms as a checklist to see how high you score as a couple, because you can have those signs as well if you are not in a Twin Flame relationship. I had a boyfriend once when I was 28 and we had telepathy on steroids. I could even feel when he felt attracted to someone else. It was eerie, but he was not my twin. My soulmate ex-husband would totally come out as my twin according to most signs and he did an awesome impression of Twin Flame running in our marriage but I never once thought he was my twin.

So don’t use those lists as a validation method, because you can end up dead wrong.

Go to your heart, what does your heart tell you about this connection?

I was brought up in a spiritual community run by a Twin Flame couple, well Mark had passed on by the time I arrived but his wife and Twin Flame Elisabeth Clare Prophet ran the show back then and she was one of the first Twin Flame teacher of our time. So by the time I was nine I knew what Twin Flames were and I knew who the Ascended Masters twin couples were.

It wasn’t until I met my actual Twin Flame that the thought crossed my mind, ‘This could be your Twin Flame…‘ and then out of nowhere I met all these women who were suddenly telling me about their Twin Flame connection. I swear I had never till that day spoken to anyone who told me they had met their twin and remember I knew about Twin Flames almost all my life.

If you met who you believe to be your Twin Flame and suddenly the Universe starts throwing Twin Flame info in your reality or you start meeting all these other people who have met there Twin Flame, then you have entered the twin vortex and you can trust that the Universe is confirming your inner knowing.

That’s also how it works when you recognize the importance of this connection, the Universe will confirm it to you.

A client of mine told one of my good friends about this man she felt this incredible connection with and my friend totally recognized my story in hers, so she told her to check out my website. The not yet client did that and thought ‘Whoa, not sure if I am ready for this.’ so she parked it in her thoughts and the very next day she meets up with a good friend of hers who when she hears her story says ‘Sounds like you met your Twin Flame!‘ That same day my client to be, came back to my site to book a session, because she realized this was too much coincidental – to not be synchronicity in action.

First comes the realization that this connection is beyond anything you have ever experienced and then you will get the confirmation and the information you need to proceed on your journey.

How not to seek confirmation of the ‘Is this my Twin Flame?‘ question

I am strongly against seeking outer confirmation of your Twin Flame connection, simply because one person will tell you this is your twin and the next will tell you he or she is not. The truth is only you, your twin and the Divine are really in the loop about the truth of your connection. One of the most important lessons on the Twin Flame journey is learning to trust your own judgment and trusting what’s coming through in 5D instead of only going by what your naked eye can see as the reality in 3D.

So let me walk you through all the ways NOT to try to get confirmation of your Twin Flame connection.

Twin Flame signs and symptoms as checklist

I already wrote some things about this above and I think these signs and symptoms are the #1 reason people run into near twin and fake twin experiences. As far as I am concerned there is no such thing as a near or a fake twin. There are only two option, the person IS or IS NOT your twin – so everything near or fake equals to IS NOT your twin.

But using these outer appearance markings as your measurement of the authenticity of your Twin Flame connection can get you into big trouble as you can see from my own examples the telepathy I had going on with my hot Czech lover was intense and much more than I ever experienced with my actual Twin Flame. My adonis in bed soulmate ex-husband, would totally fit the near twin experience but he wasn’t my twin.

Talking about being an adonis in bed, that’s another reason women who have already met their twin then suddenly start asking themselves ‘Maybe this is my twin?‘ after they hook up with their twin-rebound guy which only brings more confusion and adds to the near twin or fake twin idea. Once you have met your twin, it’s best to stay celibate – unless you actually meet the love of your life and you are 100% sure they are your real Twin Flame without sleeping with them first. Because as soon as you hit that first orgasm, your oxytocin levels will easily help you make Mr. Wrong into a perfect Mr. Twin – even when he isn’t. But all the feel good chemicals released in your blood and brain will make you see him that way.

Looking into the cards

If you own a deck of divination cards, you know you can’t be trusted with those and the problem is even when you pull out the exact cards that you would want, you don’t dare to trust them anyway. If you don’t own a deck of cards, trust me – don’t buy them. You will just drive yourself crazy, trying to get the answers you seek. It’s really a waste of time. Yes, also delete those divination apps on your phone – they really don’t add any value to your life.

Well then you might think to go to a tarot reader who can confirm if this person is your twin or not and tarot readings can be very valuable but most readers don’t know anything about Twin Flames and even if they do – it doesn’t always make them correct.

If you would ask 10 readers to confirm your connection there will always be SOME to many of them who will say ‘No, this is not your twin‘. Not every reader is a clear channel that can be a reason, but also their own ego thinking can get in the way- especially if you give them details about your twin and what’s going on, which often looks nothing like what we are conditioned to believe real love looks like.

Using tarot to confirm your Twin Flame connection is like Russian roulette, a one in x chances that your answer is going to be right.

Consulting a psychic

I have had very mixed results with psychics from very negative to completely positive and the thing is most psychics are never completely wrong, but I have never met a psychic that was 100% completely right either.

When consulting a psychic in regards to your Twin Flame connection, make sure the psychic is a twin themselves because trust me if they are not, chances are they won’t be able to give you an accurate read anyway. A psychic read is really only valuable if it can show you your own blocks to Twin Flame union, because if you are using it to look into the future of your connection that is actually a form of trying to control the process – which will always get you stuck on this journey.

I tend to agree with my favorite metaphysical teacher’s view on this:

‘I have found it destructive to look to the psychic plane for guidance, as it is the plane of many minds and not the “The One Mind.”

As man opens his mind to subjectivity, he becomes a target for destructive forces. The psychic plane is the result of man’s mortal thought, and is on the “plane of opposites.” He may receive either good or bad messages.’

Florence Scovel Shinn

A psychic is as good as the clarity of his or her channeling and it really depends on how far spiritually developed that person is themselves and capable of accessing the higher realms of truth.

The odds are a bit better in this case than the tarot cards, but you still have a 50% chance that what you are being told is utter BS. Not intentionally of course, this person sees what is shown to them but do you really want to bet all your money on what someone else sees about the authenticity of your Twin Flame connection?

I would rethink that strategy, because now you have reduced your odds to a coin flip but there are still two options – heads or tails.

Through Astrology

So after writing the Astrology article recently I got back into contact with the astrologer Courtney who had already done my twin’s and my chart two times before. I hired her a third time to do our couples chart and I received a 17 page report which also looked into our connection:

‘There are many aspects and connections between your two charts that are indicative of this being a legit twin flame or soul mate relationship. In this section of your reading we’ll go over these and the significance of each. First, let’s go back to that Sun/Pluto aspect between your anaretic Pluto and his anaretic Sun. Both of these planets exhibit extreme versions of their already intense energy. Both are working together to bring elements of your previous lifetimes back into the picture today, and together these two planets, representing life and death, activate something within you both that you can’t deny makes you feel driven to be closer and closer to him.

Not only does this aspect show that you are definitely here to serve an important purpose (or two) in one another’s lives, with the involvement of your Vertex making a trine with your Pluto, and a sextile with his Sun. The Vertex is a point of fate found in your chart, and when someone else’s planet intersects or otherwise aspects your Vertex, you will feel as though your relationship was fated or destined to be.

The Vertex person will go through some sort of life changing experience brought on by the one whose planets come along and activate this sensitive spot in our stars. What’s more, his Vertex in Scorpio makes a conjunction with his own Pluto while making an unstable aspect with your Part of fortune. Basically, what this shows is that your two souls are perhaps trying to figure out what it is that must be done in this lifetime in order to be able to move forward.

You’ve awakened something within one another, and from that there’s really no turning back. This doesn’t mean that you’ll end up together, but you know that already. You’ll never be the same as you once were, before you physically came across one another on this plane of existence, but that’s okay because you’re learning the lessons and living the life that the Universe has set out for you to take advantage of.

To add even more fuel to to the fire that keeps your twin flames burning, your North Node in Aquarius, another karmic point in your natal chart, makes a beautiful trine with his Ascendant. This only further emphasizes the connection you share and your bond that is unbreakable.’

But it took three times to get this in the reading, there was no word of Twin Flame or Soul mate in the first two charts, which could have been due to the rules of the company she was working for at that time. I know some psychic lines also prohibit the use of the term Twin Flame in the phone consults.

When it comes down to it, its still seeking 3D confirmation of a 5D connection – you can do it but it’s kinda old skool, if you get what I mean. I would not spend a couple of hundred dollars on getting this question answered because as you can read in my reading, even with aspects like this – it doesn’t guarantee that you will end up together. It certainly doesn’t make the work you need to do on yourself any less. It basically changes nothing and unless you stop doubting the connection in yourself, you will keep asking yourself ‘Is this really my twin?’ or you will keep manifesting situations in your outer reality that trigger your own inner doubt.

Fool proof method to get Divine confirmation of your Twin Flame connection

I much more recommend you get a 5D confirmation of your Twin Flame connection, because honestly baby you are going to need to learn to trust these 5D signs anyhow, they are all you are going to get for the majority of this journey. It will not only be in regards to your Twin Flame, but this will be your new way of life as you shift out of the 3D density and start living in the magical and miracle filled reality of 5D. So let this be your starting point of entering a world that does not work on seeing is believing which was our reality in 3D, but instead it works on believing is seeing.

So here is my fool proof method:

  • Choose a sign (my twin sign is a gold ohm sign) that is symbolic for you and your twin but uncommon enough that you won’t see it everywhere
  • Write yourself an email asking the Universe or God to show you this sign 3x in the next 3 days* if [write your twin’s name] is your Twin Flame
  • Go about your business trusting that the Universe or God will show you your sign in the perfect time. Don’t actively look for your sign and when you think (panic) about not having seen your sign yet, tell yourself that if this person is really your twin the Universe will confirm it

*This way you will be sure it isn’t random luck, if you see your sign once. Three is a very common sequence in the Twin Flame realm. Often random twin signs, when the Universe wants your attention will come in three. Three also symbolizes the twin connection, the Divine Feminine, the Divine Masculine and the joint higher self.

You need to trust that if this person is really your Twin Flame the Universe will knock itself out to give you confirmation. We twins play an important role in lifting the planetary vibrations, so the Universe wants us together with our twin. Download the Gangsta Goddesses Manifesto to find out how Twin Flames have chosen to incarnate and reunite in this lifetime to assist in the ascension of planet earth.

If you do not get the sign you asked for, this is your answer from the Universe – that this relationship although valuable in it’s own way, is not a Twin Flame connection.

Prepare to be baffled by the Universe

To show you how powerful this method is let me show you the answer to a sign I asked on my birthday earlier this year.

I wrote on the 9th of February:

‘Dear God,
Please give me a clear and definite sign in regards to me and {twin name}, what do I need to understand and what is my next step? Show me two white swans if we are still working towards Twin Flame union.’

The very next day, the 10th I got my signs. I had asked two white swans as a sign that my twin and I were still working towards Twin Flame union. I had to speak at an event that day and just before I got in the car I see a picture of two white swans on the timeline of a friend who just moved to Belgrade, Serbia and the picture was in a Facebook photo album called Belgrade.

When I messaged her that she just gave me the twin sign I had asked for she said, she had just felt the push to update it just now. So we talk a bit an then I head out the door to drive to the event, which was like a one and a half hour drive.

As I am driving on the highway at 130 KM/h with the radio blasting, I pass two identical trucks… uh twin trucks and then I’m blown away by what is on the identical trucks. Two golden interlocked hearts and next to their Swiss head office location both trucks have the text Belgrade, Serbia on them! That was the Universe knocking itself out to really say, take those swans you saw seriously because that was our answer to your question.

Then I reach the event location where a friend of mine has booked me to do a past life and subconscious block busting session with the group women that she is doing a two day business event with. She is one of my best friends and knew it was my birthday so she had a gift for me that she gave me during lunch. A beautiful golden necklace with a small intricate lotus on it and a text plate that says ‘and so it goes‘. The very first thing I notice though is that the gift wrapping had the exact same pattern as her Christmas gift to me a Bollywood cookbook to cook out of for my twin. I remember having the book on my lap and caressing the cover, having such a strong realization of how I would cook for the rest of our lives out of this book for my twin. So I wanted to ask her if she got it at the same shop, but she was already telling me about this online jewelry store where she had ordered my gift.

Because of this strong association I knew there was something about the gift as I put it on and wore it throughout the day. Then when I came home and placed the two patterns next to each other I could really see how they were almost identical. So then I started looking deeper and I googled what the symbolism of the lotus meant and of everything I read, the word detachment caught my eye.

So I googled the meaning of detachment, not because I didn’t know what it meant but for clues and suddenly it hit me what was to be my next step, it was non-resistance.

And I remembered this Florence Scovel Shinn quote:

When you can be happy with or without your heart’s desire, it will suddenly appear, for your ship will come in over a “don’t care” sea.’

Voila, the Universe gave me my next step. I needed to let go of my GRIP! I wanted reunion so badly I was fully demagnetized and not only getting in my own, but also the Universe’s way.

Two weeks earlier, I remember thinking to myself there has to be an easier way then this. I don’t want to pull this relationship into existence any longer. As soon as I thought it I get a Skype message, from the Skype bot telling me my twin is also on Skype and I should say hi to him. So I click through to the linked profile and I see we are connected on Skype all of a sudden, which we haven’t been since 2014. I knew that for a fact, but here we were connected again.

It was like the Universe was saying ‘It’s here waiting for you, all you need to do is let go. Get out of the way.

‘Do not let your heart’s desire become your heart’s disease.

You are completely demagnetized when you desire something too intensely. You worry, fear, and agonize. There is an occult law of indifference – “None of these things move me.” Your ships come in over a don’t care sea.’

Florence Scovel Shinn

The Universe is really at our beck and call, eagerly awaiting to fulfill our each and every wish, but you have to obey it’s laws and one of these laws is the law of indifference. You have to be willing to let go of the very thing that you want the most. Matthew 7:7 in the Bible says: ‘Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.’ this is not just some ancient outdated text – this stuff works in the here and now. This is the 5th dimension, the Kingdom of heaven – your heaven on earth. It’s all there waiting for you to call it into your physical reality but it won’t manifest until you have let go of your attachment to it.

That day changed my life. I realized if the Universe as a confirmation of my sign two hours before, was capable of getting the two f-ing twin trucks from Belgrade Serbia on the same road I am driving on. If they got me to look at the print on the trucks, cause honestly when I am driving 130KM/h – I usually have my eyes on traffic instead of reading what it says on the car I am overtaking. If they could get my friend to have ordered the perfect gift for me, that would support me in taking my next step in my Twin Flame journey and could bring it all together the way they did that day – giving me ONE HUGE confirmation that no matter how bad things looked at that moment in 3D – The Universe totally had my back, every single step of the way.

If they (Father & Mother God)  were capable of doing all this, there wasn’t anything they couldn’t do.

I needed to get over myself and trust even deeper. I was asked to let go and let God, in overdrive. I received the message loud and clear and I started working on letting go of my deep attachment to the outcome I wanted and the fear that it was never going to happen and it wasn’t like I was not surrendered before. I had already stopped messaging my twin because I realized that messaging him was just another way of trying to control the situation. Prompting him to respond. Besides even to myself I sounded like a broken record, repeating the same thing over and over again and him crazy bat still reading it.

I have been working hard on myself to become fully indifferent, to the thing I want most of all in this Universe. So today I say to myself ‘If my twin and I are meant to be together, the Universe will bring us together in the most perfect and miraculous way.’ God makes a way, where there is no way – because God is capable of everything. So if this is meant to be, God will make it happen.

Twin Flame book of Evidence for the rocky parts in your adventure

I can’t tell you how important it is to write this stuff down. Both what you ask for and the answers you get including screenshots. These are all 10/2 screenshots I made on the spot and then emailed as answer back to myself on the mail I had asked the sign with.

There is nothing more irritating (been there, done that) then getting your sign and not remembering exactly what you asked for. It sucks big time, I tell ya.

Plus if you don’t log all these signs and syncs you will forget them at the moments you need to remember them the most. When your mind is running wild on you and you are only caught in fear, it will really help you if you have a book of Evidence to look back at all the beautiful things you have experienced with your twin and the Divine while on this journey.

Not to set you up to expect negativity, but if you are expecting to be engaged in six months, married in a year and hoping to have a bun in the oven any time soon – chances are it might not go exactly that way. You can’t treat this as a 3D romance, because you two are meant to be so much more to each other. (If you want to know more about the purpose of the Twin Flame connection, download the free Gangsta Goddesses Manifesto.) You can definitely speed up your timeline by doing the work, but there will be some unexpected twists and turns along the way before you have manifested your and they lived happily ever after.

So to get you through those bumps in the roads and those rocky patches that you might run into, I advise you to create a digital book of Evidence in which you log all these signs and syncs with the date they occur. You can also make a hardcopy version. I have both, I have my email folder with signs. I have a list with dates and what happened in an Evernote and I have a scrapbook that I put the most cherishable memories in.

Then at those moments that you want to give up, that you have totally had it with all this Twin Flame BS and you are ready to walk away – you can pull out your book of Evidence and remember all the beautiful moments you have encountered on this journey. This will help you let go of your self-pity and quickly shift out of your funk. Giving you renewed energy for your continued journey.

I pray this article serves you. Do let me know what results you get with working with the fool proof method to confirm your Twin Flame connection and your book of Evidence.

Wishing you magic and miracles on this amazing adventure with your beloved.

Lots of love,

Sabriyé Dubrie

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  • Sabriye Dubrie

    Signs are intention based, they don’t depend on the email being sent or not. The reason you want to send an email is because then you will remember the exact phrasing of what you asked for which you sometimes forget. But the email is not mandatory, in order for this to work.

  • Arcadia

    Can signs happen when you think about what you’d like to see but not actually email/write it to yourself? One morning driving to work, I was thinking of what I’d like to see. But of course, I got busy and forgot to email myself (even though I intended to as soon as could). A few mornings later, I happened to read a notification from my linkedin, where the main picture was what I thought I’d really like to see. The sign, if I can count it, was wihin 3 days, but I’m not really sure if I should since I didn’t send an email. If it was the sign, though an email wasn’t sent, I don’t want to ask for another confirmation and make it seem like I was ungrateful for it. What would you recommend on this?

  • Caz Spence

    I asked the universe for a feather or feathers my mind flitted between the two as I made my request to the universe. Later the same day a friend uploaded a pic of feather boas I then thought nope not my sign. I wanted one feather lol. Next day I was in a sewing shop picking up lace. Right next to the lace was guess what feather boas. Again I thought not my sign he he I want one feather. Next day I was on my cleaning job for a lovely lady who is frankly really clean any way so I dont understand why she needs me. Lol. Any i was vacuming the carpet and thought to myself hang on have i missed a spot in the hallway as I could see something white on the floor. When I got over to the out of place thing that was bugging the hell out of me, my breath was caught as I looked down, was one single white feather. I learned something else from it too. I really need to know myself more and know what I want and stop being scared. I am confusing the universe and it only wants to help me.❤

  • Charlotte Mills

    Tha k you!!
    Talk about signs and syncs… I had never heard the term Twim Flame until I met him. The energy was other worldly. And then the term came into my life. We “can’t” be together at the moment- it would involve breaking up with others. But I swear he ever leaves my consciousness (as hard as I try). So for over a year now I’ve researched Twin Flame connections, then let it go, then research again… today I found your article…
    His birthday is February 10th…
    I’m blown away.
    Charlotte in CA.

  • Heidi McDonald

    Thank you. My brain is certainly my worst enemy, the overthink, the fact that it runs and never shuts up. I’ve started meditating (something I’ve never done in my life), and have plans to start working with a spiritual therapist a couple times per month not just to help me learn how to turn off my brain this way, but to help me deal with my emotional garbage once and for all and learn to be more in the moment. Right now I’m pretty angry at my higher self for choosing a path that’s so hard; I don’t know that I can survive it, or ever find peace, or happiness. I have SO MUCH WORK to do. And I miss him so much (he ran and cut contact in July, it made zero sense and was out of nowhere…stumbling onto information about Twin Flames is the first and only thing that HAS made any sense), the missing him can be downright suffocating. He said goodbye…that makes no sense and feels fundamentally wrong in so many ways…This whole thing has blown my life apart, I’m so far off center that I no longer know where center is, and I’m planning to seek help to re-find that.

    Right now I’m just waking up to this whole thing, as well as the concept of 5d, and trying to understand it all, so, it’s gonna be baby steps. I don’t know how to achieve the balance of, “holding and nurturing the connection from afar and outside of bond” vs. “letting go.” I’ve tried to let him go. I get snapped right back, every time, by something…a bird, a song, hearing a phrase of speech, etc. I’m still in a place where looking into my heart hurts because all I see there is bottomless, undeniable love for this person, and I don’t know how I can ever be okay with just letting go of that, or if I can hold onto it and still do the stuff I need to do. It’s complicated, and thinking about it exhausts me and makes me sad. I hope I get to a better place soon. First things first: I have plans to move back to my home city where I can more easily afford to get the help that I sorely need right now. Talking to friends is mostly a wash because they think “I’m being deluded and refusing to move on.” It’s that cut and dry to them, and any efforts to explain make me sound like a crazy person, so I’ve become really very guarded and careful about who I will talk to about any of it. Usually I’m very open with others. I can’t be anymore.

    I did ask the universe for information, twice, using the advice here. It worked flawlessly both times. The first was, is this person my TF and is this what it is that I’m dealing with? I asked to see bat wings three times in three days: I saw a bat on a poster at a Wendy’s drive-thru, a dead bat in a scene of a show I was watching, and a guy wearing bat wings in an episode of another show I was watching (the latter two cases being shows where I’d have no reason to expect to see a bat). The second time, I asked whether he loves and misses me too, and for three wolves in three days, and wondered, maybe instead of wolves I should ask to see his first name or his initials…but before deciding that, I deleted the email without sending it, reasoning that I should stop looking to the universe to validate me and learn to trust myself. Then, without having sent the email and within 48 hours, I got all three wolves, his initials, his first name, AND the unexpected appearance in something I was watching of his favorite actor (who is not a popular actor by any means, and who I didn’t realize ahead of time was in the show).

    I also followed the suggestion in this article about having an “evidence journal,” which I have so far found to be pretty effective at shutting my brain down and reminding me that the universe has not abandoned me (because it really feels that way sometimes). In that, I’ve placed my requests and the answers I’ve gotten, happenstances, signs, and similarities between his life and mine (which are staggering). I hope I get to a place where I KNOW what to do about anything. I can’t trust myself yet or see light ahead yet because I’m completely lost and fumbling and unable to shift focus. All I can do is work on my move, because there lies help.

  • Niki


    You need to switch off your mind and go back into your heart space. Your mind is ego, your heart is higher self… You have to have blind faith and trust in the unseen and the unknown…. take the focus off of him, the outcome, having expectations of happy ever after…. Focus on your own evolution and growth, focus on healing all those hurts that this connection stirs up for you to address and heal… Basically get out of your head and back into your heart…. Can only advise that the more you fret, distrust, overthink, lose faith, the more you will continue to drive yourself crazy… Its called getting out of your own way, letting go and trusting that if you go deep and heal you will always receive that which serves your highest good in the end…. You can only find peace within, if you stop overthinking it, which means switching off the logical part of your brain and switching on your intuition or inner guidance, which is soul stuff, not mind stuff.

    It takes a lot of work to switch off the brain, but bringing your conscious energy to the task helps. You have to catch yourself overthinking and say, I choose to no longer overthink about all this TF stuff anymore and stop thinking about it… How do you distract a toddler, you get it to focus on something else, so you do exactly the same thing with your mind, you give something else to focus on instead. Hope this helps Heidi!!

  • Bree Lane

    I met my twin about 2 years ago. We separated a year ago. The connection was undeniable but I had no idea what it was. I know now that we are twin flames and we are true to course. I tried this exercise to make doubly tripley sure and I was not dissapointed. I asked the universe to show me sailboats. I met my twin on a temporary assignment I was on. I wasn’t even going to take it but something deep down told me to. The first time I saw him, I just knew. We were both very wounded so it took awhile to stop resisting what we were feeling. The signs and synchronicities were plentiful. One Thursday night, I was home looking up places I would want to live on Lake Michigan. I was looking for places with marinas because I love to sail and I wanted to live out my life sailing. I was mapping my future. The very next night, I went out for happy hour with him and a friend. I didn’t mention what I was doing the night before but we were talking about work and he said, “All I want to do is get a place on Lake Michigan and sail.” I couldn’t believe my ears, you could have knocked me over with a feather. I knew then that this was something that I could not deny. I left that job and we started dating a couple of weeks later. It was intense with emotions and connection. We both weren’t ready for it. So I asked the Universe to show me sailboats. Let’s just say the universe went above and beyond. I am so grateful because being in separation is so very painful. It has brought me some peace.

  • Heidi McDonald

    So, I did a lot more thinking about this and decided to let the evidence be the thing that keeps my brain from spiraling. With that in mind, I asked the universe to show me bat wings three times in three days if (he) is my twin flame. Bat wings are a thing because the one gift he gave me was a pair of bat wing earrings, back in July. My situation has been really difficult because he ran, yet despite all my friends saying “give up on him, move on,” I know that I can’t, and I know there’s something else going on here. I stumbled onto Twin Flame stuff on the internet, and have become convinced that this is what’s going on. So the first thing I needed was validation of that from the universe so that I know whether to start pursuing paths related to this. I asked, sending myself an e-mail on the 15th. Here’s what happened.

    The first pair was on a poster hanging under the menu at a Wendy’s drive-thru. Clearly a Halloween poster that hadn’t been taken down yet even though it is more than two weeks after Halloween.

    I spent the second day really sad, realizing that I wouldn’t be going out of the house, and so I didn’t know how I’d see bat wings if I wouldn’t even be leaving the house. I thought man, it really sucks that I won’t get the signs, just because I’m not going out, and I shouldn’t go out just to increase my odds of seeing them. After being really sad over the possibility that I might get a no, I decided you know what, screw it, I’m just going to watch a couple more episodes of my Netflix show (Ozark, it’s pretty good!). Lo and behold, about 10 minutes into episode six…

    The third day, my son wanted to see Justice League. I sent a thought up to the universe saying, yes, I know Batman and anything at the movie theater doesn’t count, because that’s me deliberately going to see a movie that I know has Batman (and all his bat stuff) in it. I came home from the movie, and my son had a Hulu show he wanted me to watch with him, called FutureMan, because he thought I’d like it. At this point I was getting sad because I had no idea how or when I might see more bat wings by 9:35am in the morning; I accepted the idea that maybe the answer is no (even though I feel in my bones that it’s yes), and I have to be prepared to accept that. I stopped thinking about it and started watching the show with my son. In the third episode of FutureMan, a woman named Tiger is doing roll call of everyone in her unit, and they all have animal names. She calls out the name “Bat!” and the character is wearing epaulets that are bat wings. It lasted just a fraction of a second, but it was there. I yelped! My son wanted to know why. I said to him…did we just see a pair of bat wings? And he said, yeah, why? You’re like flipping out, Mom!

    I’m going to adopt this method more often now…thank you so much! Having the evidence document to go back to and look at should work really well to shut my brain down. I need to do more work on not obsessing over whether I’ll see the signs or not, and just letting it happen if it’s going to happen, and being more accepting, less fearful of the idea of either outcome…and also on trusting my intuition more so that I don’t need to ask these questions.

  • Niki

    I asked to see a Butterfly!! I read this article the other night as I have been wrestling with is this a Twin Flame thing or not, as I sense he has run back to his karmic Ex. We are not in contact at the moment, by my choice, as I couldn’t take anymore of his BS, so I opted to walk away and work on myself, healing and purging all my wounds, which feels very empowering and I am releasing all that this connection has stirred up within me to be healed. Still have a long way to go, but recently my soul work has gone up another level and the path home is before me in the distance. Anyways Butterflies are poignant to our connection, so I asked to see a Butterfly, if he truly was my Twin Flame. Its been unseasonably cold, wet and windy these last couple of days, not spring weather at all, yet yesterday I got my confirmation as I saw three butterflies within the space of 6 hours and no I wasn’t looking for them to appear. The Wise words from Sabriye, stopped me from being scared or hurt if the Universe didn’t show me the sign I had requested. I went about my day, knowing that I would have my answer and that whatever that answer was, that I am perfectly okay as either way I am free to pursue my highest good and at the moment this is my time to get to know me again and to release all the stuff that no longer serves my life and my soul. My focus now is on being the best version of myself I can be, for myself and by myself. I feel incredibly blessed and grateful that I crossed paths with my Twin, as I have nowhere to run and hide from myself anymore, the healing work has to be done and I finally understand its a solo journey and that our separation is actually a blessing in disguise…. Two broken, lost, damaged halves will never be complete together, it just doesn’t work and trying to force something that isn’t right to be together is simply a recipe for despair and disaster and yes I have walked this road with my twin, so know it to be true from my own painful experiences!!

    Too all you lovely people out there struggling with what this journey brings up for you I say this, stop thinking about them, stop wondering where they are and what they are doing and who they are with. It simply is not worth the stress, confusion and heartache…. Take all that energy and bestow it on yourself, surrender to the Universe and trust that it has your back and do the soul work this connection has bought up inside you to heal… Leave your counter part alone to work through their own stuff, in their way and at their own speed…. Even if they do run back to their Ex or decide to date others…. Their growth, evolution and lessons are none of your business… You only have the power to change yourself, to heal yourself, to rescue yourself and to honour yourself and let me tell you its when you take this action, is exactly when you put yourself back on the path back to wholeness. Will I cross paths with my twin again… Yes I do believe I will when the time is right and that divine timing isn’t up to me, so in the meantime I have a Wonderful life to be living and exploring. Sabriye I have really enjoyed your articles very much and the wisdom you share has helped me strengthen my own resolve to be happy regardless of whether my twin and I come back together in this life as we are always connected in the higher realms and I wish him as much love and happiness as I do for myself.

  • Sabriye Dubrie

    If you read the article carefully, you would know the answer to this question. Of course if you DID NOT get the sign you asked for, something else doesn’t count. Why would you not want to see the truth and then pretend it is what you are projecting on it?

  • AR

    So I did not see 143, but saw 1043 about 4 times. Does that count? In addition is it possible that I did not get a sign because I have been getting another message as I have been seeing 23 and 32 multiple times a day, everyday?

  • Sabriye Dubrie

    Relax its a three day thing, just have faith that if it is true you will get confirmation and be willing to see the truth – NOT only WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE!

  • AR

    So I emailed myself today asking to see the number 143. But so far today I did not see it. Would it be because I was thinking about it too much. I saw 1043 twice, but that would not count right? Im sad and discouraged. I would appreciate some words.

  • Road Runner

    does seeing one of the turtles in a dream count or online? as soon as i did the letter i started reading the news and clicked on articles unrelated to turtles. I clicked on two different articles on two seperate sites that presented me with two different articles about turtles. This happened the same night. I just had a dream about the woman, like we had met up somewhere to be together. I had to go to class in the dream and left her in the room. When I got there I sat down and thought, wonder if there is a turtle in here, on the wall right next to me was the face of a ninja turtle. i’m wondering if my mind is playing tricks on me but when i woke up something told me to follow my gut.

  • Elizabeth Biscaglio
  • Elizabeth Biscaglio

    So I kind of tried this except I never sent an email to myself. I read the article and had been thinking over the past couple days if I should try it, while at the same time not trying out of fear that I would not receive the signs. In my mind, I thought I might ask for a caribou as a sign. It is significant to me and my suspected twin, as we met at a training for the coffee chain caribou coffe. I hadn’t decided to actually ask for the sign officially, again because I was afraid I was wrong.
    So today I saw a picture my 5 year old has drawn and there is a deer/caribou animal in the picture. I asked him to tell me about the picture and he just said it was an animal, never specified which kind. Now, my son draws very deliberate pictures and can always explain exactly what he is drawing. He also always brings them to me and shows me what he’s created, but this picture was just on the table in our craft room and I just happened to stumble upon it. Should I consider this a sign? Trying so hard not to chase at the moment, but just visited with my (suspected) twin after a 6 year separation and cannot get my mind off of our potential union.

  • Isabel

    So I think I’ve met my twin flame, I’m not too sure. But over the last month I’ve had this urge to contact someone from my past whom I’ve always felt a strong connection with. Ever since I re connected with him so many things have been happening I’ve been noticing different numbers in threes. Usually 444,555 111,222 or I look at the clock and it’s 11:11 and at that time I happen to be thinking about him. Or I wake up at night and it’s 3:33 this all started and grew stronger as we kept communication.. but recently I think he’s in the runner stage I’ve lost contact with him and it’s eating away at me. I know this is my time for self growth and belive me I have a lot to work on myself.
    I message him and get no response, makes me wonder how can he survive after this month of nothing but daily communication with me.
    So I just asked the universe to show me angel wing three times over the next three days. We’ll see what happens.

  • Linda

    Ok. So I did the exercise and I asked the universe and God if ——is my twin flame send me a sign.I chose two interlocking hearts. Imagine my shock when two hours later in the restaurant I was in with my girlfriend in walks my twin flames oldest son who I have never seen in town and there’s only five of this particular family with this very strange name in this town. My twin flames oldest son and his girlfriend walked in the doors with their arms interlocked and my mouth fell to the floor and my poor girlfriend didn’t understand what was going on with me! They ended up seated right behind me. He is planning to marry this girl. I was literally looking for an artistic symbol of interlocking hearts and what the universe threw at me was his oldest son walking through the door with his soon-to-be wife with their arms entwined. Physical embodiment of interlocked hearts.

  • Maja Škiljaica

    so, i did the method, and asked for a sign in the next 3 days, and it came when i forgot about it, i asked for a twin pink flamingos image, and i spot it while i was working and trying to find something else, there it was, in front of me, on the 3th day.

    i don’t know if that really is a sign,but it was, the image i asked for, but we will see.

    i have been thinking a lot about all of this, and started cleansing process, so i shut him out totally for a few days, just so that i could be alone with myself, figure all things out, because i was really hooked on him and i had to run away from all that because i couldn’t think anymore so i closed all communication, and today i realized that i was resenting him for wanting to be just friends, so i forgive him and myself for those feelings, and I felt good about that. so, i wanted to send him message, and he sent me one back in the same time i started typing, asking me how i was.. so weird… and i felt something inside my chest, like something squeezed my heart because i really did missed him in last few days but i have my own thing to do and clear all out so i wanted to be pure and released from all the negativity and old patterns before anything else happens in future. is this what ascension really is, cleaning all the stuff because all of it started when i first met him, something open inside of me and started a hurricane. i was upside out with emotions and stuff that was coming out, crying all the time.. now i’m ok, crying is almost over, and i have more love for myself each day, geting in touch with my soul every day more and more… and in the end that is all that i important, but this relationship really is something that i’ m courious because i didn0t even think about this kind of relationship before i met him, and then these signs of twin flames just started to popping out everywhere, in posts, images, quotes , randomly. is this really a sign that everything might be the BIG IT.

  • Véronique Toussaint

    Dear Sabriye. Day 1 of asking for Divine signs. I have chosen sqares, cubes in the largest expression; the kids studying it at school, etc. I was opened. Squares meant something to us, kinda cute stuff. As I am sitting next to the girl I’m helping with her homework at work, I go through her French book and my attention gets caught; document 11 ;-)) a portait from the Spanish painter Juan Gris, His work is closely connected to CUBISME as they explained in the text. Just couldn’t believe my eyes ;-)) Also; got this stuff with 11:11 and saw it on my computer clock this AM…Can’t wait for the rest ! Thanks for sharing your experience and expertise. The 2 last months since we broke up have been a roller-coaster of emoos and turmoil in my 3D life but the energy is starting to shift, I think

  • ♡ Gyu♡

    thank you! I actually did end up seeing 615 the two other times.

  • Sabriye Dubrie

    No, your sign is your sign so if you asked for 651 and you get 615 that is not the same.

  • ♡ Gyu♡

    So, I asked to see the numbers 615 three times within three days. This morning, I shot out of my sleep and looked at my phone. Usually when I wake up, it’s never like this and I usually search for my phone for a few minutes. However when I woke up I knew where the phone was immediately and when I checked the time it was 6:15.

    However, I have seen the numbers 651 but I haven’t been seeing the number 615 in order. I’ve been seeing 651, or the number 15 every where. I’ve seen it atleast 10 times. Does this seem like this is my confirmation, just a less direct one?

  • Beth Burris-Williams

    So I asked the Universe for a sign of a penguin if the guy I have been seeing is my twin as there is such a connection like nothing I have ever experienced before. Anyway, one night at cheer practice the girls were doing a song/chant with movements about a penguin. Took me about half way through that there was my sign. Nothing like about 30 girls yelling your sign at you.

  • Sabriye Dubrie

    It’s not uncommon for signs to come in when you give up hope 😉

    Maybe you were too focused on getting your sign. For now I would just treat it as if it was the sign you asked for. Or you can ask again if you would like. To be honest it doesn’t really matter one way or the other, because no matter who this person is, twin or not they have come in your life for your highest good.

    People are focused on their Twin Flame, but this journey is never about anyone else than yourself.

    You can never waste time, love, money, effort or anything else on yourself. No matter what it will always be worth it.

  • Ariadna K.

    I got my three signs in four days instead of three. Does it still count? I’m confused now. I got two on the first day, then nothing for two days, then the third one on the fourth day when I had given up hope. :/

  • Maja Škiljaica

    Hey, so i came across this article and i have so many questions right now. I recently met someone, who came rather unexpected in a way that seemed orcestrated from a higher level. Then we met and there was instant connection, recogniton that we knew each other for many lives, instant opening (im not open to people like that). So we both felt it and said we are soulmates. But i had an emotional clense out of nowhere so he felt that we should be friends for now because se sensed that emotional relationship would turn bad for me. His arriwal started so many changes in me, clensing in all levels of my being, i started meditatting, kriya, clearing all negative and bad stuff that are blocking me from living live in love and harmony with myself. So he is here as a support and taking all my negativity i give him when im down and love when im up. And i excepted that he has a purpose that doesnt have to be romance, even when my hart wisperes what if he is. But interesting part is the sings i have last few days. Firslty, first thing i read from his personal blog was about twin flames which i ignored and think then that i waste my time if he has met his twin flame. But i rejected that tought and move on. Last few days articles and images about twin flames are just popping up in front of me, without searching. so i got the sign and started reading it, and now i have a dillema, that he is either my twin flame, waiting for me to clean my shit, to be ready for the unconditional love that he can feel (he is on much more level spriritually than me) or he is sent to help me achieve that level for my true twin flame to come in future. And now i think maybe i could ask for a sign that he might be that one i waited and simply have to go trough all of the cleaning before i can receive all of it. And this connection i have is not romantic, its so much more, when i huged him it was like my heart was expanding to wrap itself arround him and i felt all the weight of his soul on mine. It was like anything i felted before. I opened instantly, and it came as if was suposed to be. He told me that what i have inside is so beautiful, and he wants to gently help me rose from all the ilusion and negativity my mind wad creating and to come to the light and love. That this change is something i have to go trough because now im ready for it and he will be here to help me. So all of this happend in last month and im just recieving things from all over in this direction and now im wondering is the universe sending me a message that he might be the one that i have been waiting for. Or im imagining things :). Thank you. Maja

  • Sherine Hasan

    Try to look inwards .. I know this is extremely painful to be blocked … but Shift your heart to inwards to your wounds and fear .. donot try to control the scene … and emotions .. go to healing sessions … Let compassion and Love guide .. pray more .. till your heart find peace … I know how you feel and finding my inner strength by praying helped me alot …

  • Mia L

    Great article thank you so much!
    After asking for signs all day that he is my TF, I stumbled upon this phrase ”…a 50minute long technicolor journey into the soul, accompanied by high vibration music.” while his stage name is ‘x’ Technicolor and he is a musician! When all shows tha he really might be the one from our meeting till our fading communication, Iam so confused and doubt everything. Would you fellow flamers take it as a good sign?
    Any opinions would be much appreciated as I am going slightly insane over here.
    Much love to all xx

  • Tiffany Tibbetts

    Wow! Your comment is the first I read, right after asking myself what symbol to ask for. My twin in question, has a bald eagle tattoo, and I keep seeing pairs of eagles flying, since I met him! I never correlated it all, until now! Thanks for sharing! Love and light!

  • Sabriye Dubrie

    That is an awesome quick answer you got there! Love it <3

  • Jenny B

    So I’m still trying to pick my jaw up of the ground. I read this article and hemmed and hawed about actually write an email to God and sending it to myself asking for the signs that my ex is my twin flame. I was afraid I wouldn’t get the signs and I didn’t know how I would deal with the disappointment if I did not get the sign I was asking for and find out that my ex is not my twin flame. After he ran I learned quite through synchronicity about the Twin Flame phenomenon. Once I read about it I realized it described our relationship to a t but that part of me that is afraid to hope would doubt it.

    So after making up my mind to send the email, I hemmed and hawed about what sort of sign to pick. I finally settled on a bald eagle. It has been a significant sign for me ever since my ex ran like the hounds of hell were after him in late January. And just recently I remembered I have a picture of him and I together taken several years ago with a live bald eagle being held behind us at a fundraiser at the national bald eagle Center here in the USA. For some reason that seemed like a fitting symbol for the two of us and a good sign to pick.

    I wrote the email and asked for three eagles within three days. Then I went back to mindlessly scrolling through Facebook. First thing I saw was a Giant Eagle emblem on the front of a podium with some news story from MSNBC. Pretty neat but okay still need two more. I kept on scrolling through my Facebook feed when I heard the words “bald eagle” on the television I had on in the background. I rewound the program and found that there was a character on the show who had the nickname bald eagle. Now I’m thinking this is just weird and does hearing the sign count as much as seeing the sign? LOL the doubting part of me likes to question everything after all! I made up my mind to finish the program which would be over in 23 minutes and then get up and go mow my lawn. Just as I was about to close out the Facebook app a post in a group that I belong to called the northern way of life showed a picture of a beautiful full-size adult bald eagle up close sitting in a tree.

    There they were. All three of the Eagles I asked for within an hour of my asking. I am still awestruck. And of course the doubter in me still wants to ask for more signs but I will leave it alone for tonight.

  • Sabriye Dubrie

    Hey Cherie, reuniting is the focus of many people not understanding this journey. My twin and I are currently in the harmonization stage after 16 months of separation, but I do know twin couples that are together Sonja Evans for example at 10 of Cups is in union.

    However your fear of not achieving union, is often indeed what trips you up. It’s most times based on a deeper pattern of codependency and you simply can’t come into union with your Twin Flame while codependent. This is an old 3D relationship template that twins have come to collapse.

  • Cherie

    this is an incredible read and exactly how I’ve been feeling ever since my (still questioning) twin flame ran from me months ago. I’m so fixated on reunion and so afraid it won’t happen that I wonder if I’m sabotaging the very thing that I want. However I have read so many articles about reuniting but no one seems to talk about whether they actually DID reunite. So what was your outcome? Did you reunite?

  • Ale

    I was just sending him oldies songs and pictures of what.i see in the sky. still believe in us unconditionally and I’m.not giving up although he is angry at me. I stopped expecting reply. All he did was view the messages and not reply. Now I think he Please help, it I will.die.